1. ".....my name is OB, I am 36 years old, married with six children (1 girl, 5 boys).  Before I joined the PfR programme, I used to eat alone. My wife could bring me food and I eat alone. I used to see my children as very dirty because they could play a lot, sweat and smell, so I did not want them to come near me. After starting this programme, I learnt that I was doing the wrong thing distancing myself from my children, so I decided to put into practice what I learnt. I discussed with my wife and we started eating together as a family. I used to go home late but these days I go home early and if I find that they have not bathed, I bath them myself. Eating together has helped me to know the characteristics of each child and improved my relationship with them......." 

2. My name is AT, I am 52 years old, married with 8 children, all boys. Before the PfR programme came to my village, my wife and I were not communicating well. Even with the children, things were not good. My wife was aggressive to me and tough with the children. She was adamant, could not wash my clothes, she would talk back at me rudely whenever there was an issue I expressed my feelings about. But for the short time I have attended the programme, I share with her what we learn in every session and I do home practice with her because she is not in the programme. I see that she has changed positively, she uses a calm tone, washes and works together with the children, there is now some happiness in my home and I want my wife to join the programme so that this happiness can continue and even increase because I know it will change her

3. " I am OD, 33 years old, married to one wife and we have one child. Our baby is just one month and half. Before I started attending this training, I used not to carry my child, I used to fear because he is a bay and here in the North, men do not carry babies. I could just see the baby from a distance but after joining the programme, I came to realise that I can also carry my child, so I started carrying slowly by slowly and now I can carry him confidently."

4. My name is AM , 25 years old, married with 2 children. In this programme, I have learnt to respect my husband and my children. Before I joined the programme, I used to love my husband but I used not to respect him. I could treat my children anyhow because they are children and I could segregate. But with this programme, my perspective of a family has changed. I now love and respect my husband, I work with him even when it comes to taking children to hospital when they fall sick, unlike those days where I used to think that it is the man to cater for the medical needs and he could be the only one to take the children to hospital or a doctor.

5. My name is Joel, 24 years old and married. I have a nine months baby girl. Our home is located along the road. Before I joined the programme, I used to feel shy and small whenever I carried my baby because other men would call me a woman, but after learning here, I now know that it is important to create a strong bond between me and my children and I now feel very confident because I know that I am doing the right thing.

6."...........I am OT, married with two children (1 boy, 1 girl). Before joining the programme, my children used to fear me a lot because I was tough. I used to beat them even for the simplest mistake. They normally wanted to play with me or around me but I could shout at them or chase them away. I could not spend time with them at all. In this programme, I have learnt that it is important to spend time with my children. I now go home early, play with my children and I even created a playground for them where I made local play materials. I see that they are very happy when I play with them and this has got them even closer to me. I feel they love me so much these days................."